Monthly Archives: December 2014

The Courage to Accept

One of the greater things you can do is not advise, judge, or justify, but simply listen and accept. It has been an old lesson. Ye without sin cast the first stone. Yet it seems ingrained that we sit in judgment of others. Looking at the actions people have taken and assigning approval or disapproval based upon our limited knowledge of the situation. 

I generally a pretty calm driver, but my ex was super chill in even the worse driving conditions. Didn’t matter if someone cut her off, went 25 mph on a freeway on-ramp, she never complained and never even had an internal struggle. When I asked about it she responded simply. Who knows what is going on with that person right now. Maybe it is there first time behind the wheel and they are scared to death. How is my over-reaction going to help them or me? Maybe something dire just happened in their lives and they aren’t 100 percent focused, but have to drive to work or home or whenever. I cannot judge their driving because I don’t have the information to do so. Even are just a poor driver my getting upset still won’t change that.

It is an understanding I knew well enough, but still had trouble putting into practice. I have since made it an added life philosophy and it has been invaluable. I have earned a lot of friendships and confidences due to being able to simply listen and not pass judgment. Sometimes I need to stop myself, remind myself that I have done a LOT of stupid things. I have failed and made mistakes which have added to my experience. The reason I know better is because at one time I really really didn’t. We have to be willing to take a hard honest look at ourselves before we can sit and judge others.

The other issue is acceptance. You don’t have to agree with someone’s actions or inaction. You don’t have to approve of someone’s bad driving to accept it. Acceptance does not equal Agreement. We can understand that we don’t have the full picture. That our facts are incomplete. Knowing our ignorance, accepting it, and allowing people to make their own decisions (for better or for worse) is a core part of inner growth. Acceptance is Peace.

Overall remember that what you don’t know is just as important as the things you do know. 

A Fit Truth

As the year winds down and the new year approaches many start turning their eye to the popular resolution of being in better shape. One of the big hurdles people face when it comes to physical fitness is approaching it with the right mindset. There are two core things to remember any start is a good start as long as you keep it up. And it is important to pace yourself. 

Start slow, easy. This is core. It is about having fun. Not making it a chore to be dreaded. You shouldn’t be unable to move the next couple of days. That is not the way you want to go about it. The whole pain is gain mentality is for those that enjoy the gym and really enjoy intense work-outs. For the average person, you want to avoid the punishment of working out. 

So pick something light. Listen to your body. You want to push yourself a little – it is a work-out after all, not a walk to the refrigerator. But be mindful. Stretch, stay hydrated, and be active for your set time. If you can handle a 30 minute jog, handle it. If 15 minutes in you find yourself done, then be done. 

The mistake is making this First Work-out your One Work-out. It is a process. The first time out is just warming up. Getting back into doing something active and fun once a day. Don’t dust off the old work-out routine you did twenty years ago. Don’t push yourself to the point of injury. 

Working out is not a punishment. Make it a reward. Make it your time. A time when you get to lose yourself to music and scenery. A time just for you to test and compete with yourself. And when you hit your limit, call it a day and look forward to picking back up tomorrow.

Slow and steady wins the race. It is about building a solid foundation that you can grow upon. So don’t try to dead lift 200 pounds your first time working out. Don’t look to run for 10 miles. Don’t try to do 100 burpees in one go. Build up to your goals – don’t try to accomplish them on day one.